So I had a moment the other day, and I have to say, it’s kind of funny that it has taken me this long to realize and embrace the reality of that moment.
It was the day that I decided to start this blog, actually. I hadn’t really talked much to my hubbers about it, and when I did, it was a real casual comment and that was about all. While he was at work that evening, I sent him a text with the name of the blog, along with a comment that I really didn’t have any business starting a blog right now with all that was going on, but hey, what the hell, right? I mean, why not?!?!
He was totally on board and excited for me and one comment he made was “you love being busy.” Such a simple statement, but I gotta tell ya, it was a big moment for me!
If you’ve ever met me, at any given point in my life, it is likely that you’ve also known this about me. Apparently I’ve been refusing to accept or embrace this. See, I guess I had it in my head that busy = bad, and well frankly, that just isn’t true. I’m really excited about finally feeling comfortable in embracing that I do like being busy. Yes, yes I do, and it’s okay!
I do believe that life is all about balance, and a healthy balance is important for everyone. That being said, balanced for me may not be balanced for you. With how I’m wired, I think I would go nuts if I didn’t have an ever-changing “to do” list going, and projects in mind, and things I want to try. I mean seriously, do you follow my personal Pinterest page??? Its ridiculously awesome, and some day I will have done or tried everything on there, it just might take me 40 years 😉
But don’t get me wrong, when I feel like I need to veg out, I do! I can throw my legs over the side of the chair and melt into it while binge watching Parenthood on Netflix or a Shark Tank marathon. Sometimes on the weekends I sneak in a killer nap when the littles are down for theirs. It’s awesome.
Some people need their “me” time every morning, or maybe they need some dedicated reading time. Who knows…it is different for everyone, and that’s the beauty of it! I don’t think that simplifying life or creating balance looks the same for each person.
So on that note, I’ll share some of what helps keep me balanced, just in case you need an idea or two to try, because you haven’t found what works for you.
- Listen to your body: I like to live like my hair is on fire! There….I said it! I’m constantly running around taking care of things, trying to be on top of it all, and taking care of everyone around me. I like it that way! But dude, I get tired. It isn’t often that I get to the “I’m starting to not feel well because I’m so tired” stage, but it happens, and when it does, I go to bed. Like at 7:30. My normal bed time is somewhere between 10 pm and 1 am, sooooo this is kind of earth shattering when it happens. Or how about this…if you realize you are rather crabby around 4 in the afternoon because you’re hungry, try taking in some protein to hold you over until your evening meal. I’m not saying go get a double cheeseburger as a “snack” because then you’ll be getting the look of death from whomever is in charge of making said evening meal. I’m just saying, grab a handful of nuts and some string cheese and stop being a turd.
- Do what you love!: If you love soaking in water, make time for a bath. If you love gardening, make time for some dirt diggin’. If you love painting or doing crafty things, make time for your colorful sticky mess! I’m not saying that these things have to happen every day, but don’t forget about the little things that make you YOU! I love music and dancing, so we go listen to live music or go salsa dancing as often as we can. I love DIY projects, so it is inevitable that it’s only a matter of time before something else in our house gets painted…for the 3rd time 😉
- Don’t worry about what other people think: My husband’s idea of a fun night is not sitting down to make handmade ornaments, or crazy decorations for a birthday party, but that doesn’t keep me from doing it! I love that kind of stuff! Maybe you loved to dance as a kid, and you’ve never really lost that love. Go find an adult ballet class, or tap, or jazz, or whatever schnazzy kind of dance you like! Rock on with yo’ bad self!
- Be aware of your space: I’m really big on this one. I think it’s important to figure out what sort of environment makes you happy. What colors are soothing to you? Do you prefer lots of different colors, patterns, and textures in a room? Do you like modern, clean lines? What is it that makes you feel like “aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh….aaaand I’m relaxed” ??? I’m not suggesting you go out and redecorate your entire place, I’m merely suggesting that you spend some time figuring that out, and work towards it. It’s amazing how much more peaceful you’ll feel when you’re in a space that evokes those warm, fuzzy feelings naturally!